It's okay to have the desire to want a mate again. Do not allow anyone to make you feel guilty when you express your desire to get back in the dating game.
This desire is natural.
1. God made us and he knows that it is not good for man to be alone.
Genesis 2:18
2. Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled. God honors marriage
Hebrews 13:4
3. It is better to marry than to burn.
1Corinthians 7:8-9
4. He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.
Proverbs 18:22
5. Case for widows marrying or remaining single.
1Timothy 5:3-16
Friday, September 19, 2008
Friday, September 12, 2008
Widow's Cry
Widow's Cry
Lord I long for a family again
A family to call my own
It hurts to be alone!
The nights are long and muddle
No one to cuddle
No one to kiss
No one to share my wish
The house is noisy
From the music that blasts from the radio
The voices and the faces that speak and stare
From the t.v. in the empty family room
The tick-tock from the clock on the hard wall
in the hall
Yet I hear SILENCE!Screaming at me!
I'm alone
I'm alone
No One to call my own
I long for someone to talk with
To pray with
To dance with
To cry with
To laugh with
To share intimacy with
To eat with
Lord hear my cry!
Tassel Daley
Copyright ©2008 Tassel Daley
Lord I long for a family again
A family to call my own
It hurts to be alone!
The nights are long and muddle
No one to cuddle
No one to kiss
No one to share my wish
The house is noisy
From the music that blasts from the radio
The voices and the faces that speak and stare
From the t.v. in the empty family room
The tick-tock from the clock on the hard wall
in the hall
Yet I hear SILENCE!Screaming at me!
I'm alone
I'm alone
No One to call my own
I long for someone to talk with
To pray with
To dance with
To cry with
To laugh with
To share intimacy with
To eat with
Lord hear my cry!
Tassel Daley
Copyright ©2008 Tassel Daley
Sunday, August 10, 2008
***STRENGTH WILL RISE***
Wait on the Lord; Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say , on the Lord.
Psalm 27:14
Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him Psalm. 37:7
Wisdom
Answered prayers
Intuition
Tenacity/Time/ Trust
Quite often we become impatient and take things into our hands instead of waiting on God.
Because of loneliness, grief, financial lack etc, we quickly get back in the dating game. We think that another person can heal our wounds or take care of us.
There are many benefits that we can receive from God by simple waiting before rushing into a relationship after the death of our spouse.
Is 40:31 They that wait upon the lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.
WISDOM
How blessed is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding. For its profit is better than the profit of silver, and its gain than fine gold. She is more precious than jewels; and nothing you desire compares with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her, and happy are all who hold her fast. (NAS, Proverbs 3:13-18)
When you wait on the Lord you receive wisdom. It takes time to heal. As you wait for your healing, you will become a whole person. You learn to identify red flags. Because you are not needy you will most likely attract the right person. As you wait also you will gain knowledge from many sources on how to survive.
ANSWERED PRAYER
I waited patiently for the Lord and he inclined unto me and heard my cry.Ps.40:1
If you wait on the the Lord , He will answer your prayers. He will answer your prayers according to His will. Rest in the Lord. Accept your single status and enjoy it too!
INTUITION
Lead me in thy truth and teach me: for though art my salvation:on thee do I wait all day.
Ps.25:5
When you wait patiently on the Lord ,He gives you an inner sixth sense. He makes you aware when something is not right. You will focus better and have a clearer mind. Because you are not in a hurry , you can identify red flags. It is during this waiting period that you understand God's plan for you. God's plan might be singleness for now or the future. Only you can know this from the peace He gives you during your waiting period. If it is, His plan ,for you to remarry, rest assured that He will send His perfect choice for you...and you will know it! The Holy spirit will reveal it to you.
TENACITY/Trust /Timing
They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary, they walk and not faint. Is.40:30
As you wait on the Lord he will give you strength. You will become stronger in Him. You will start falling in love with Him. You are no longer needy. You are now whole. He is now your husband, your provider, your all in all. You are now whole and ready to share your life with another whole person if that is God's plan.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding.. Prov.2:5-7
Timing...There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the sun. Eccl.3;1
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO DURING YOUR WAITING PERIOD
1. Rest in the Lord. Spend time worshiping Him through praying, singing and bible reading.
2. Attend church and get plugged in a group that you are really interested in.
3. Start a new hobby.
4. Journal...each day write the way you feel..you might produce a book!
5. Volunteer
6. Get a pet
7. Join a club
8. Teach a class
9. Be a mentor
10. Learn a new language
11. Be an intercessor..pray for other widows and singles
12. Draw close to God and allow Him to be your husband..Is.54:4-5
This list is by no means exhausted. Please email me other things to add here.
tassel_d@yahoo.com
Psalm 27:14
Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him Psalm. 37:7
Wisdom
Answered prayers
Intuition
Tenacity/Time/ Trust
Quite often we become impatient and take things into our hands instead of waiting on God.
Because of loneliness, grief, financial lack etc, we quickly get back in the dating game. We think that another person can heal our wounds or take care of us.
There are many benefits that we can receive from God by simple waiting before rushing into a relationship after the death of our spouse.
Is 40:31 They that wait upon the lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.
WISDOM
How blessed is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding. For its profit is better than the profit of silver, and its gain than fine gold. She is more precious than jewels; and nothing you desire compares with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her, and happy are all who hold her fast. (NAS, Proverbs 3:13-18)
When you wait on the Lord you receive wisdom. It takes time to heal. As you wait for your healing, you will become a whole person. You learn to identify red flags. Because you are not needy you will most likely attract the right person. As you wait also you will gain knowledge from many sources on how to survive.
ANSWERED PRAYER
I waited patiently for the Lord and he inclined unto me and heard my cry.Ps.40:1
If you wait on the the Lord , He will answer your prayers. He will answer your prayers according to His will. Rest in the Lord. Accept your single status and enjoy it too!
INTUITION
Lead me in thy truth and teach me: for though art my salvation:on thee do I wait all day.
Ps.25:5
When you wait patiently on the Lord ,He gives you an inner sixth sense. He makes you aware when something is not right. You will focus better and have a clearer mind. Because you are not in a hurry , you can identify red flags. It is during this waiting period that you understand God's plan for you. God's plan might be singleness for now or the future. Only you can know this from the peace He gives you during your waiting period. If it is, His plan ,for you to remarry, rest assured that He will send His perfect choice for you...and you will know it! The Holy spirit will reveal it to you.
TENACITY/Trust /Timing
They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary, they walk and not faint. Is.40:30
As you wait on the Lord he will give you strength. You will become stronger in Him. You will start falling in love with Him. You are no longer needy. You are now whole. He is now your husband, your provider, your all in all. You are now whole and ready to share your life with another whole person if that is God's plan.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding.. Prov.2:5-7
Timing...There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the sun. Eccl.3;1
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO DURING YOUR WAITING PERIOD
1. Rest in the Lord. Spend time worshiping Him through praying, singing and bible reading.
2. Attend church and get plugged in a group that you are really interested in.
3. Start a new hobby.
4. Journal...each day write the way you feel..you might produce a book!
5. Volunteer
6. Get a pet
7. Join a club
8. Teach a class
9. Be a mentor
10. Learn a new language
11. Be an intercessor..pray for other widows and singles
12. Draw close to God and allow Him to be your husband..Is.54:4-5
This list is by no means exhausted. Please email me other things to add here.
tassel_d@yahoo.com
***BACK IN THE DATING GAME**
Are you widowed and considering dating again?
May I ask you a few questions?
1. Are you lonely?
2. Are you a single parent now and looking for someone to take care of your children?
3. Do you need for someone to take care of you financially?
4. Do do long for someone to hug and kiss you?
5. Are you looking for romance?
If you answered yes to one or more of the above questions then read on.
Six months after I became widowed I continued to be in grief. Each day as I drove home from work the tears flowed naturally from my eyes. I did not care if anyone saw me crying. Tears were sweet to me. As I approached my home it intensified. Even though my sister and her three children were staying with me I still felt alone. Quite often I would lock my self in my home office and cried. I cried until my eyes were swollen. No one knew the grief, sorrow, and loneliness that plagued me day and night. I was now a needy woman. I longed to be touched and hugged by a man. I was madly in love with my late husband. Even though we were married for 29 years and dated for four years, our love for each other matured into a love that was much deeper than "puppy love." I deeply missed that love and affection!
I longed for that love again..so I decided to start dating . My relationship with God was somewhat strained. I wondered why God did not healed my husband when he had the heart attack? I accepted the Lord when I was nine years of age. I loved and served Him all my life. The same could be said of my late husband. He accepted the Lord when he was 17. My late husband loved the Lord with all his heart soul and mind. He served Him as a minister for over 30 years, ever so faithful. I just could not understand why God took him home so young.
I never turned my back on God though. I guess I was just angry. I started dating a man of God who was very kind to me. How ever he was not interested in dating or getting married because of health problems. Even though I was aware of this , I allowed my self to fall in love with this man. Amazingly I was so happy. I was in love again. I no longer grieved. The dates I had with my new love kept my mind off my grief. Little did I know that allowing my self to fall in love without first experiencing healing would set me back time. During our dating , I grew spiritually weak.
We came to teh conclusion that it was not God's will for us to continue dating so we decided to stop dating. To my surprise I was back at square one. I started grieving again. I missed my late husband so.. badly. Tears were my daily drink. I once again had the need for love and companionship. I went on fasting for a mate. I also sowed a monetary seed to a christian tv station hoping that God would send me the mate of my dreams. I had all confindence that God would honor my effort.
Shortly after a friend introduced me to a man who professed to be a child of God. He was ready for marriage. I was inlove again! We got engaged three months after dating. Because of my neediness, I ignored all red flags that were waving high and low. My spiritual life went downhill. God is good and he never leave His children alone. During this trying time in my life, I attended a 13 weeks bible teaching at my church entitled "before you say I do". That course rescused me.
Even though I was married for over 29 years, I learned a lot. Each week I would examined my self and lined it up with the teaching I received. Little did I know that during this teaching period I was also being healed. I was now becoming a stronger woman. I knew that breaking off the enagagement was the right thing to do. And that was exactly what I did! It was very hard for me to do though because I was still in love with my fiancee. One great truth I learned was that God's partner for me will build me spiritually and not tear me down.
I am presently in the process of writing a book. If you would love to have your story in my book please email me at tassel_d@yahoo.com
Tell me about your dating after the death of your love one.
May I ask you a few questions?
1. Are you lonely?
2. Are you a single parent now and looking for someone to take care of your children?
3. Do you need for someone to take care of you financially?
4. Do do long for someone to hug and kiss you?
5. Are you looking for romance?
If you answered yes to one or more of the above questions then read on.
Six months after I became widowed I continued to be in grief. Each day as I drove home from work the tears flowed naturally from my eyes. I did not care if anyone saw me crying. Tears were sweet to me. As I approached my home it intensified. Even though my sister and her three children were staying with me I still felt alone. Quite often I would lock my self in my home office and cried. I cried until my eyes were swollen. No one knew the grief, sorrow, and loneliness that plagued me day and night. I was now a needy woman. I longed to be touched and hugged by a man. I was madly in love with my late husband. Even though we were married for 29 years and dated for four years, our love for each other matured into a love that was much deeper than "puppy love." I deeply missed that love and affection!
I longed for that love again..so I decided to start dating . My relationship with God was somewhat strained. I wondered why God did not healed my husband when he had the heart attack? I accepted the Lord when I was nine years of age. I loved and served Him all my life. The same could be said of my late husband. He accepted the Lord when he was 17. My late husband loved the Lord with all his heart soul and mind. He served Him as a minister for over 30 years, ever so faithful. I just could not understand why God took him home so young.
I never turned my back on God though. I guess I was just angry. I started dating a man of God who was very kind to me. How ever he was not interested in dating or getting married because of health problems. Even though I was aware of this , I allowed my self to fall in love with this man. Amazingly I was so happy. I was in love again. I no longer grieved. The dates I had with my new love kept my mind off my grief. Little did I know that allowing my self to fall in love without first experiencing healing would set me back time. During our dating , I grew spiritually weak.
We came to teh conclusion that it was not God's will for us to continue dating so we decided to stop dating. To my surprise I was back at square one. I started grieving again. I missed my late husband so.. badly. Tears were my daily drink. I once again had the need for love and companionship. I went on fasting for a mate. I also sowed a monetary seed to a christian tv station hoping that God would send me the mate of my dreams. I had all confindence that God would honor my effort.
Shortly after a friend introduced me to a man who professed to be a child of God. He was ready for marriage. I was inlove again! We got engaged three months after dating. Because of my neediness, I ignored all red flags that were waving high and low. My spiritual life went downhill. God is good and he never leave His children alone. During this trying time in my life, I attended a 13 weeks bible teaching at my church entitled "before you say I do". That course rescused me.
Even though I was married for over 29 years, I learned a lot. Each week I would examined my self and lined it up with the teaching I received. Little did I know that during this teaching period I was also being healed. I was now becoming a stronger woman. I knew that breaking off the enagagement was the right thing to do. And that was exactly what I did! It was very hard for me to do though because I was still in love with my fiancee. One great truth I learned was that God's partner for me will build me spiritually and not tear me down.
I am presently in the process of writing a book. If you would love to have your story in my book please email me at tassel_d@yahoo.com
Tell me about your dating after the death of your love one.
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Single Again
Single Again
I once was single.
Then I fell in love
And got married.
Lots of hugs and kisses
Parties, picnics,and wishes
Flowers, presents,and such delights!
Babies, houses, dishes
Eating, laughing, crying, praying
Sharing with the one I love!
Suddenly! without warning
Singleness pounced on me uninvited
And handed me my new status
Widowed!
Now I am single again!
Tassel Daley
I once was single.
Then I fell in love
And got married.
Lots of hugs and kisses
Parties, picnics,and wishes
Flowers, presents,and such delights!
Babies, houses, dishes
Eating, laughing, crying, praying
Sharing with the one I love!
Suddenly! without warning
Singleness pounced on me uninvited
And handed me my new status
Widowed!
Now I am single again!
Tassel Daley
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Widowed
The first time I became aware of the agonizing effect of someone losing their soul mate was the year 1970. I remember vividly the agony on the face of one of my college mates when the news that her husband died from a heart attack hit her. At the moment, I felt sorry for her. This sympathy did not last for long. You see, I was young and in love. Little did I know then,that 38years later I too would experience widowhood.
On December 14, 2002, one day before my 50th birthday, my husband of 29 years went home to be with his maker. This time my feelings were different. As I reflect on 38 years ago, my feelings has now changed to empathy.
My life since that day has changed. I am now single again.
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